Soundtrack of My Life #4

I've been putting this post off because, well, it could be rather fraught! Due to several issues, mainly my Adventist fundamentalist upbringing and spending my high school years in boarding school, my dating experiences were quite limited.

From early on, in my memory, there always seemed to be a need to look at dating relationships as a "problem to be solved" so I could get on with my life! Suffice it to say, despite some rather promising relationships, all seemed to founder on or around some version of this issue. I had several rather important goals to achieve and, in every case, my need to achieve these goals I left the women I dated very clear that, at best, they were #2 priority. You may see the problem. I didn't for a sadly long time. Oops.

So despite being head over heels in puppy love with a couple (not sure there's another kind when you're 14 or 15) and in serious love with a several others, I knew all about being dumped. And, despite their best attempts to explain the situation, I remained puzzled by this pattern until well into marriage (spoiler alert, we've been married for 50 years) and child rearing. More on that when we get further down this playlist. 

I haven't used names here to protect the innocent but because of the very short list of candidates, those of you who've known me since high school days can likely guess, IF you care at all. And I want to say thanks to all of you and especially to Carolyn, who broke my heart and then helped me find my heart, as we've spent most of our adult lives learning from each other.

BTW, I'll spare you the details, but the breakup circumstances are still crystal clear in my aging brain! And they all stung! (Full disclosure, I did instigate one break up and it went every bit as badly as the ones I didn't!)

Here's the song and Fogleberg's instrumental backing is stunning. The backing band was known as the Heart Attack Horns and the sax solos will rip your heart out if you let them.